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This article explains in detail why certain things should never be done after someone passes away, based on Vedic beliefs and Vastu Shastra. Our ancestors have left behind guidelines that go beyond rituals — these are energies and actions that directly impact the soul's journey and our household’s energy. Ignoring these rules can create lingering negativity and block prosperity and peace in life.
Let’s dive into some important things that should be avoided after a death in the family, and how these practices are deeply rooted in spiritual and energetic science.
Why the Soul Needs Silence, Not Distraction
In many spiritual traditions, especially Vedic Sanatan Dharma, the period right after death is considered extremely sensitive. The soul, or "aatma," does not immediately disconnect from the physical realm. It remains around for a few days, observing, processing, and preparing to move on to the next phase of its journey. During this time, it is important not to create noise, parties, celebrations, or bring in new energies that distract the soul.
Vastu and ancient scriptures clearly suggest avoiding loud music, construction work, and even shifting homes after a death. These actions are said to confuse the soul and create restlessness. It’s also advised not to start anything new — like new business, new purchases, or housewarming ceremonies — during this mourning period, known as “shraadh kaal” or “sutak.”
Avoid These Mistakes After Death
There are some practical and spiritual mistakes that many people unknowingly commit after a death:
1. Wiping away signs too quickly:
People often clean the house the very next day, removing footprints, the cot, or the things used by the deceased. But traditionally, it is said that the soul hovers around and should be given time to leave respectfully. Hastily removing these signs can create a disturbance in the energy.
2. Wearing new clothes or jewelry:
The mourning family is expected to wear simple, old, or white clothes for a period of time. Wearing bright colors, new clothes, or ornaments right after a death is seen as disrespectful to the soul's journey.
3. Sleeping in the deceased person’s bed:
It’s recommended to keep the bed or the sleeping area untouched for at least 13 days. Many traditions even suggest burning the cot or giving it away after the rituals are completed, as the energies attached to it can affect the emotional and spiritual well-being of the living.
4. Bringing new idols or performing pujas:
Surprisingly, many people think that doing puja can purify everything. But Vedic science says that during mourning, the energy of the home is not pure, and no auspicious rituals should be done till the mourning period is over.
Spiritual Cleansing and Respectful Closure
After the completion of the death rituals (usually on the 13th day), it is important to perform proper cleansing of the home using holy water, burning cow dung cakes, lighting ghee diyas, and chanting mantras. This helps reset the home’s energy and allows for the soul to depart peacefully.
Lighting a diya daily during this period helps guide the soul’s path. Offering water and black sesame seeds (til) with prayers ensures that the soul finds peace and does not remain attached to the earthly plane. Feeding the poor or offering food to Brahmins also brings blessings to the soul and peace to the home.
Remember, these rules are not about fear — they are about energy, peace, and respect. Following these rituals properly ensures that the soul departs without regret and the family receives divine protection and emotional strength.